ISLAMABAD, May 25 (APP): As the nation continues to embrace modernization and societal transformation, increasing divorce rate in recent years due to various socio-economic and cultural factors is threatening our social fabric and family system.
\nPeople see multiple reasons behind this phenomenon like financial instability, illiteracy, intolerance, domestic violence, misperception, changing socio-economic dynamics, women\u2019s financial independence, social media, interference of families and not but least the weakening connection with religion.<\/p>\n
In good old days, the people whom today we consider illiterate and backward had more capacity and depth to maintain relationship. They were good speakers and good listeners and despite being uneducated could understand each other; were tolerant and console the partner when a dispute arose.
\n\u201cIn good old days, marriage was considered a union between two families usually basing on kindness, truthfulness and respect. Two people used to marry even without seeing their faces and it was piety of this relation that tied them into a bond of love whole of life,\u201d remarked Human Right Activist and Politician, Advocate Amar Lal.
\n\u201cBut, today the standards have changed making this union material instead of spiritual, tolerant and based on understanding. The bride seldom considers her in laws as her family and groom\u2019s family reckon the benefits it can get from parallel family,\u201d he explained. \u201cTherefore, when a relation is built on interests instead of accommodating each other, it is destined to spoil.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cEven the love marriage usually fail and many couples seen dying for each others before marriage, suffer an unpleasant separation,\u201d he said.
\nApparently, all strata of life including parents, education system, clergy and social reformists seem responsible for this debacle as we produce intolerant and self-centered Diaspora. In many cases, mismatches and marriages imposed by families meet the same fate.
\nBulk of our youth is ignorant of philosophy of marriage because they are not properly taught. The fact is that when Allah Almighty created Eve, Adam questioned who she was and Allah replied, she is your \u2018contentment\u2019 and you also give her \u2018love and peace.\u2019 But, we have long forgotten this philosophy that hold both groom and bride responsible for a peaceful family.
\nNothing was impossible for Almighty, but the choice He made for Adam, was of a partner that explains the importance of this relation. He made it a binding between two people and two families and termed divorcing as the most unpleasant act.
\nBut changing norms and values and western onslaught on our civilization has put this noble relation at risk. They carry out their agenda sometimes in the name of women empowerment, sometimes rights and duties of a couple and sometimes independence.<\/p>\n
Many local organizations also play as a tool in their hands to the utter neglect of noble teachings of our religion. Their agenda focuses to flare controversies instead of promoting tolerance and understanding among married couples.
\n\u201cExtra marital affairs mostly due to social media and men\u2019s reluctance to take financial responsibility for their families are among the important factors behind increasing divorce rate in our country,\u201d stated Human Rights Activist, Dr. Farzana Bari.
\n\u201cLife becomes very difficult for divorced women in our country as there is no social acceptance for them in our society,\u201d she added.
\nDr. Bashir Ahmed Shah, a prominent Psychologist calls increasing divorce ratio an urbanized phenomena where women are financially independence and they can face divorce or ask for Khula.
\n\u201cSometimes couples have some conflicts but the marriage continues as people compromise considering the financial implications and societal taboos,\u201d he stated.
\nBashir Shah observed that in some cases false claims of families about their children result in separation while sometimes these are unmet high hopes that spoil the relation. \u201cToday after land dispute cases, the second highest cases are related to domestic abuse and financial maintenance.\u201d
\n\u201cAs our society transforms and communication means offer unlimited exposure to extra marital affairs, it also leads to marital dissatisfaction,\u201d he observed.<\/p>\n
When Advocate Rabia Saghar describes domestic violence and non-fulfillment of financial responsibilities by men as the major reason for divorce; Senior Journalist, Imrana Komal urges state to ensure financial stability to end frustration between married couples and urges families elders indulgence in settling discords.<\/p>\n
According to a 2019 survey by Gallup and Gilani Pakistan, 58% Pakistanis believed that divorce was becoming more prevalent as two out of five respondents held couple\u2019s in-laws responsible for most of these cases.
\nAnother survey conducted in 2023 revealed that primary reason for increasing divorce rate was lack of commitment, closely followed by infidelity and conflict in families.<\/p>\n
As reconciliation fades away gradually, intolerance is rampant leading our congenial life to quarrels, brawls and finally separation. Two people departing must think what impacts their attitude would be leaving on their children. If they cannot live with peace and nurture well their children, what kind of a nation they would be grooming.
\nTherefore, it is time for all of us to rethink as to where we are leading. Are we becoming a fierce crowd instead of a tolerant nation; ruin our customs, norms and culture and ultimately shattering our family fabric.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
ISLAMABAD, May 25 (APP): As the nation continues to embrace modernization and societal transformation, increasing divorce rate in recent years due to various socio-economic and cultural factors is threatening our social fabric and family system. People see multiple reasons behind this phenomenon like financial instability, […]<\/p>\n
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